“The first thing I like to say about myself is that I am essentially a writer. That is one part of me that unveiled itself right from the early stages of my life and it has remained constant. I live life curiously and sometimes in my head – I am a little bit of a dreamer, but then what creative isn’t? I love planning and executing tasks, even stuff as simple as my daily to-do list. I am really passionate about growth. I love tracking anything that I see evolving around me because it’s inspiring to myself and others to see how far I have come and to envision how far I can go. It is such an amazing concept.
Because of the part of me that lives in my head, coming out of my shell has been my biggest struggle but right now, that struggle is a win (Let’s pretend I don’t sound like an “aspire to perspire” motivational speaker LOL). It’s a win because it has led to a host of interesting life experiences that have shaped the woman I am becoming. I think that coming out of your shell is somehow relative to growing up because then you realize ‘what now?’ Your life is yours and the decisions you make will dictate how you live it. Thinking about that pushes me to dream big. One quote that has always resonated with me is “Life is a daring adventure or nothing” and I choose daring adventure every day.
I know that I am not here to achieve just one thing and neither have I figured it all out yet. So I align my talents (writing, helping others and giving advice) into whatever I am doing at any point in my life because can you really achieve purpose through something that doesn’t interest you? I doubt that.”
When did your natural hair journey begin? I had my big chop in October 2019 but before then I had transitioned for ten months.
What do you think the natural hair community is ‘shy’ to admit? That it isn’t always fun and good vibes with growing hair. Sometimes, it happens that you get overwhelmed with life, work, school etc and you just don’t have the energy for your hair and you begin to rethink the essence of going on this journey. I think it’s okay to feel this way sometimes because this is a movement that is somewhat new to us and there are still people who see natural hair as “difficult”, and it could get to you.
How do you think we can drive more unity, understanding, education and tolerance in the natural hair community? First, we all need to constantly remember that nobody’s hair journey is the same with another and because of this, we need to understand that everyone has an opinion. So, keep your mind open to learning new things and unlearning old habits.
What do you think is the biggest misconception about natural hair? That natural hair, especially 4C can’t be combed! Whenever people see my hair and marvel out of curiousity, sometimes I pick up the pity and concern over how I comb this my “hard” hair. I am almost moved to laughter because I can picture them imagining me yanking at my hair and wincing in pain as I comb it. But of course, it is not like that. With the right tools, products and techniques, combing your natural won’t the issue it’s been made out to be.
Plug a sister – name as many black girl owned hair brands off the top of your head. Crownkit Essentials, Afro Virtues, Lumeeveda and Trybizz Natural.
Do you agree with the notion “I AM NOT MY HAIR”? I am not my hair. Of course, in Africa, black (African) hair is regarded as a sacred part of the body because it is closer to the heavens. And if you trace its history, you’d see that a person’s cultural identity and even social status was often tied to the hairstyle they wore. In fact, growing up, the “don’t let anybody touch your hair” rule was instilled in me because of the perceived spirituality African hair carries. Given these beliefs and practices, it is easy to believe that you are one with your hair but that’s not me. My hair represents only a fraction of who I am and not the entirety me.
What are your top 5 fundamental natural hair care tips? 1. Water will be your best friend on this journey. 2. You will come across a lot of rules; sift through them and pick only what works for you. 3. The first few months, even up to two years are for trial and error. Embrace it. 4. Less is more. Stick to a simple, yet rich regimen. 5. Do not compare your hair.
What regimen would you recommend for winter? For Harmattan (West African season characterised by dry, dusty winds), a Moisturising Conditioner, Deep Conditioner and a sealing oil to lock in the moisture are your best bet in maintaining healthy hair. Protective styling is also key – keep your hair out of the harsh air as much as you can.
Twists, threading or braids? Twists.
High puff, space buns, no puff or however your shrinkage decides to shine? High puff.
Micro/box braids, cornrows or twists? Braids.